Why the Antagonist Can't Stop Watching the Protagonist: The Science Behind Online Harassment & Spiritual Jealousy

Have you ever been harassed, gossiped about, or targeted by someone who seems obsessed with tearing you down?

Here’s the truth: it’s not because you did something wrong.
It’s because you’re the protagonist, and they’ve chosen to cast themselves as your antagonist.

What Is a Protagonist vs. an Antagonist?

In both literature and human psychology, the protagonist is the central figure. The one who grows, evolves, shines, and receives recognition—not always because they’re perfect, but because they’re visible, alive, and actively writing their story.

The antagonist? They usually have a storyline they’re dissatisfied or bored with. They also feel that you've ascended higher than them and an antagonist person cannot stand losing! Instead, they orbit the main character, reacting, resisting, and often trying to sabotage what they don’t yet understand or embody.

The Science Behind This Behavior

Social psychology explains this dynamic clearly. People who have unhealed trauma, low self-esteem, or who are stuck in unresolved karmic patterns tend to project their pain onto those who are evolving. This is especially true in online spaces where visibility can feel threatening.

A study published in Psychological Science found a robust relationship between low self-esteem and externalizing problems such as aggression, online trolling, and immature behavior. This relation across different age groups and nationalities, stated a consistent pattern of abuse in attempts to hinder the self-worth of others to make themselves feel important.

Why This Happens:

For the antagonist, seeing someone become especially unapologetically themselves~ activates their inner story of suppression, lack, abandonment, low self-esteem, and unworthiness.

Energetic Truth: Light Triggers Darkness

Spiritually speaking, when your frequency rises, your energy becomes more magnetic. You draw in attention, opportunities, and sometimes… resistance.

When you start owning your voice, walking in your purpose, or receiving accolades, it can stir discomfort in those who haven’t allowed themselves to do the same. This is often mistaken for “jealousy,” but it’s deeper—it's soul-level resistance to transformation.

But here's the secret: it’s not your responsibility to dim your light for someone else's comfort.

How to Rise Above the Antagonist Energy

You don’t need to fight, defend, or justify. Here are a few powerful ways to ascend beyond this type of energy:

1. Clear Karmic Attachments

The longer you’re visible, the more likely you’ll attract the energy that’s karmically attached to your old patterns. That’s why I created the Karmic Clearing Program—to help people release toxic cycles, soul contracts, and ancestral patterns that keep us entangled in unnecessary drama. When you clear your field, the noise fades.

Explore the Karmic Clearing Coaching Program

When you clear your field, the noise fades and the ruminating thoughts disappear.

2. Pull a Card From The Lessons of the Mystical Muse

This Oracle deck was channeled during one of the most spiritually activating seasons of my life. It’s designed to mirror the exact soul lesson you need at any given moment. When dealing with antagonists or psychic interference, the Muse offers clarity, sovereignty, and divine redirection.

Discover The Lessons of the Mystical Muse

Use It When:

• You feel energetically attacked or off-center

• You're navigating emotional chaos triggered by others

• You need intuitive redirection

Let the Muse offer you sovereignty, clarity, and cosmic perspective.

3. Stay Rooted in Your Story

The most powerful thing you can do is keep going. Keep sharing. Keep healing. Keep growing. Let them play their delusional part, but don’t hand them the pen. This is your story. The protagonist never needs to justify their light, they just stay lit.

Don’t: Let external projections derail your purpose.
Do: Keep sharing, keep healing, keep glowing.

The protagonist never needs to explain their light~they just stay lit.

Astrology Tip: When the Moon is in Scorpio or Pisces, you may feel more energetically sensitive. Use these windows to journal, set boundaries, and affirm your sacred role.

 

4. Use Spiritual Tools to Shield & Rise

• Practice cord-cutting meditations
• Smudge with protective herbs like mugwort or white sage
• Write and burn letters to energetically release the hold they have on your mind
• Stay hydrated, alkalized, and close to nature—because spiritual strength is also physical vitality

        Herbal Allies for Protection:

• Mugwort: Enhances psychic boundaries and shields the aura.

• White Sage: Clears stagnation and negative energy.

• Rosemary: Strengthens the solar plexus and wards off envy.

• Holy Basil (Tulsi): Balances the heart and protects spiritual purity.

        Crystal Guardians:

• Black Tourmaline: Shields against electronic and psychic smog.

• Labradorite: Strengthens auric boundaries and repels projection.

• Amethyst: Transmutes negative energy into love and clarity.

• Citrine: Empowers solar plexus, self-worth, and confidence.

         Living Food Support:

• Drink chlorophyll-rich green juices daily (celery, cucumber, parsley).

• Add sea moss to smoothies for mineral balance and resilience.

• Use raw garlic to clear parasites—energetic and physical.

• Eat purple foods like wild blueberries to protect the crown chakra.

         Energy Practices:

• Cord-cutting meditations with Archangel Michael

• Smudge your aura daily before bed

• Write and burn letters to release psychic hooks

• Sun-gaze early morning and walk barefoot on the Earth

Higher a healer to help you protect your energetic frequency.

Final Word: Shine Anyway

You were never meant to be background energy. You came here to embody something unique, sacred, and powerful. So if they’re bothered, obsessed, or reactive, it’s just a confirmation:

You’re living. You’re leading. YOU ARE THE LIGHT! 

Let them cast themselves as the antagonist if they must. You’ve got a much bigger plot to follow.

With clarity and cosmic love,
Andrea